When Is a Boy Not a Boy?
When he simply doesn’t want to be. Dealing with people who have it in their heads that they really should’ve been the other gender is becoming less shocking in our culture these days. The next step, however, is being taken in Philadelphia.
For school officials in Haverford Township, the challenge was daunting: What do you do when a 9-year-old student, with the full support of his parents, decides that he is no longer a boy and instead is a girl?
I’m wondering how many other life-altering decisions these parents have allowed this third-grader to make.
The government schools are more than willing to be codependent in this matter.
Parents of a third-grade student at Chatham Park Elementary School approached the administration on April 16 to ask for help in making a "social transition" for their child.
The Haverford School District consulted experts on transgender children, then sent letters to parents advising them that the guidance counselor would meet with the school’s 100 third-grade students to explain why their classmate would now wear girls’ clothes and be called by a girl’s name.
Some parents are, as one might expect, upset that the school is requiring that everybody else’s third graders now will receive this specific kind of sexuality training at this young age. And they sprung this information on the parents at the very last minute.
"Why is the school introducing this subject to 8- and 9-year-olds?" wrote the parent who started the blog thread, which had been viewed more than 3,000 times as of yesterday. "Why were we not notified sooner. We received the letter today, the discussion at school is tomorrow."
This is not going to be very politically correct of me, but the group most in need of counseling at this point is the boy and his parents, not the rest of the 3rd grade. This is not like complaining that you think your hair’s too curly or your nose is crooked. This is indeed life altering, and allowing a 9-year-old to make this change seems like a huge mistake. Fortunately, surgery is not involved, but changing fundamental identities at this point does not sound wise.
This also says something about our culture, that younger and younger children are, somehow, coming up with this idea and getting their parents to go along with it, whether those parents come along easily or kicking and screaming. Something tells me that the Dr. Spock generation is less likely to put up a fight.
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Something as silly as a dental genetic disorder has kids making fun of my daughter because she has yellow teeth due to no enamel, this won’t be rectified until she is an adult and she can have all of her teeth capped.
It upsets me when she comes home because kids accuse her of not brushing her teeth and they tease her. Kids need to learn how to act appropriately around others, do we all assume they grow up knowing how to act like adults?
I don’t think we can assume that his parent and he are not getting counselling. I also think it is no harm for the students to have a discussion about it. When are we going to discuss it? When someone beats him up?
If it were my child, I would want them to be healthy and happy. If their mental health warrants me accepting of who they think they are then I would have to make some concessions. With the high suicidal rate amongst children I’m sure the parents are thinking of keeping their child alive by being supportive. We also have to remember that all who are adult transgender, perhaps didn’t become transgender after turning 18.
While I agree with some of the comments made by Violette, I would have to disagree and say that the issue should have been brought up with parents earlier. Parent’s have a right to educate their children as they will, and furthermore, I’m not sure that having the school counselor talk with the third grade class will be very helpful at all. I’m not sure that the 9 year old himself understands what is happening,and I doubt other 8 year old woulds either. I think this issue ought to be worked over for awhile before such a drastic decision is made.